Episode 29:

Intimate Matters with Anya Grichina

Content warning: In this episode we talk about sex, sexual trauma and sexuality.

Today we talk intimate matters with sex therapist and counsellor Anya Grichina. Anya believes that a fulfilling and vibrant sex life is an integral part of our well-being. Yet one in five people have concerns about their sex life at some time in their lives.

Sex is about so much more than what happens in the bedroom and your sexuality is affected by the people and experiences in your past. This not only includes your current and previous sexual experiences, but what you have learned from your parents and culture about what is "right" and "wrong" about sex.  

Anya also believes that it’s difficult to have good sex in a bad relationship and that sexual concerns are often related to relational distress. This is a big topic, join us as we explore everything from sexual fantasies and pleasure to mismatched libidos and open relationships.

We chat about:

  • Sexual pleasure and the importance of imagination, fantasy and play (1:59)

  • The various reasons why we may feel disconnected from our bodies and our sexuality (8:35)

  • How our personality and communication style influences our sexuality and capacity for intimacy (10:55)

  • How to navigate mismatched libidos in relationships (14:02)

  • Self-pleasure and why it’s often a taboo topic in relationships (17:50)

  • Polyamory and open relationships (23:31)

  • Sexuality and sexual identity (29:00)

  • Moving beyond heteronormativity to discover our authentic sexuality (39:00)

  • Pleasure points (45:00)

  • Maintaining erotic desire in long term relationships (48:30)

And so much more!

 

Episode Resources

Guardian article on The Secret to Great Sex

Good Sex by Jessica Graham 

Contact Anya

https://intimatematters.com.au/

 
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